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Are you married to a doctor?

Do you find being married to a doctor isn’t as glamorous as society assumes?

From MCAT to Match Day to Boards and Contract Negotiations, this is not an easy path.  In fact, it often feels that having a physician spouse and having a relationship are polar opposites!

It is common to feel resentment, friction, and stress in your relationship despite how much you love each other.

Hi, I’m Lara and I’m the podcast host and founder of Married to Doctors.

My husband and I got married before he decided to start down the medical path.  For the past sixteen years, we’ve struggled and triumphed through the MCAT, medical school, residency, and fellowship with several twists and turns along the way, including a specialty change.

In addition to this, we both knew we wanted children, and we bravely brought five boys into the world!  Our sons range in age from fourteen to four.  Keep reading below to see our full Medical Journey Timeline.

2001

October: I married a boy who said he wanted to be a math teacher.

 

2002

May: I graduated with my Master's Degree and began a wonderful teaching job.

2003

August: Josh took the MCAT.

2003

November: We had our first child.

2004

Summer: We moved for medical school. I left a great job.

2004

Fall: Josh started medical school.

2005

February: We had our second boy!

2005

February: Two days after boy #2 was born, my brother, who had been sober just three months, moved in and stayed until October 2007.

2006

November: We had our third boy!

2007

April: Our second son was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Intense operation and long recovery followed.

2008

May: Josh graduated from medical school.

2008

Summer: We moved for surgical residency.

2010

Spring: Josh decided to change specialties.

2010

Summer: We moved for pathology residency. We bought a home and I returned to teaching.

2011

April: We had a very unexpected boy #4.

2011

Fall: Josh decided to return to general surgery.

2012

January: We moved for surgical residency, and once again I left a great job.

2013

March: We had our fifth son.

2015

July: Josh graduated from surgical residency and accepted his first attending job position. We moved again.

2016

November: My mom, who has Parkinson's Disease, lived with us for six months (until May 2016).

2017

Summer: Josh decided to do a fellowship. We moved again.

2017

September: I decided to be brave and start sharing my stories, struggles, and joys. I created marriedtodoctors.com.

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2001

October: I married a boy who said he wanted to be a math teacher.

 

2002

May: I graduated with my Master's Degree and began a wonderful teaching job.

2003

August: Josh took the MCAT.

2003

November: We had our first child.

2004

Summer: We moved for medical school. I left a great job.

2004

Fall: Josh started medical school.

2005

February: We had our second boy!

2005

February: Two days after boy #2 was born, my brother, who had been sober just three months, moved in and stayed until October 2007.

2006

November: We had our third boy!

2007

April: Our second son was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Intense operation and long recovery followed.

2008

May: Josh graduated from medical school.

2008

Summer: We moved for surgical residency.

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2010

Spring: Josh decided to change specialties.

2010

Summer: We moved for pathology residency. We bought a home and I returned to teaching.

2011

April: We had a very unexpected boy #4.

2011

Fall: Josh decided to return to general surgery.

2012

January: We moved for surgical residency, and once again I left a great job.

2013

March: We had our fifth son.

2015

July: Josh graduated from surgical residency and accepted his first attending job position. We moved again.

2016

November: My mom, who has Parkinson's Disease, lived with us for six months (until May 2016).

2017

Summer: Josh decided to do a fellowship. We moved again.

2017

September: I decided to be brave and start sharing my stories, struggles, and joys. I created marriedtodoctors.com.

Are you looking for a speaker at an upcoming event? If the physician-family is involved, I would love to be as well.

I've spoken at a number of national events both in person and virtually. I especially enjoy presenting to medical students and residents.

To see my previous engagements and learn more please keep reading or contact me via email, [email protected]  

Lara publishes every Thursday at 7 a.m. Eastern

Her Segments include:

- Interviews with therapists, financial planners, marriage and family experts

- Real stories from physician spouses and families

- Advice and information for navigating medical school, residency, and medical life

Download Stats: 400K as of March 2021

Primary Social Channel is Instagram with over 3.8K followers

Brief Avatar: Physician spouses looking for community, support and seeking ways to make their successful homes happier. Many physicians also listen to receive the other perspective on their medical marriage.

Lara's work can be found in many places, including Medscape, Practice Link, The White Coat Investor, Kevin MD, and Physician Family Magazine. Her podcast was also mentioned by the New York Times!

Lara publishes every Thursday at 7 a.m. Eastern

Her Segments include:

- Interviews with therapists, financial planners, marriage and family experts

- Real stories from physician spouses and families

- Advice and information for navigating medical school, residency, and medical life

Download Stats: 221.8K as of Dec. 2019

Primary Social Channel is Instagram with over 3.5K followers

Brief Avatar: Physician spouses looking for community, support and seeking ways to make their successful homes happier. Many physicians also listen to receive the other perspective on their medical marriage.

Lara's work can be found in many places, including Medscape, Practice Link, The White Coat Investor, Kevin MD, and Physician Family Magazine. Her podcast was also mentioned by the New York Times!

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Publications

Authored

  • "Finding My Voice as a Doctor's Wife," Physician Family Magazine, Winter 2018
  • "The Romantic Side of Budgeting," White Coat Investor, Feb. 2018
  • "Doctors Wear White Coats, but What do their Spouses wear?," Kevin MD, April 2018

Interviewed and Featured

  • "Docs Reveal the Keys to Happy Medical Marriages" Medscape, Feb. 2019
  • "It Takes Two: Your Spouse's Role in the Job Search," Practice Link, Spring, 2019
  • "Couples Therapy is Now Streamable Through Your Earbuds. Ain't Technology Grand?,"The New York Times, Apr. 2019
  • "Changing the "Doctor-Wife" Image One Podcast at a Time," sdtplanning.com, Aug. 2019
  • "Navigating the Medical Marriage," adaptivemedicalpartners.com, Nov. 2019

Mentions:

What others have said about Lara McElderry's speaking

Interviews

  • White Coat Investor, "An Interview with Lara McElderry of the Married To Doctors Podcast" May 2018
  • The Blossoming Mommy and Baby Show, "Thriving in Marriage During a Hard Season," Dec. 2018
  • Financial Residency, "The Importance of Community for Physician Spouses, Dec. 2018
  • CEO Blog Nation, "Family Dynamics in The Medical World," Feb 2019
  • Doctors Unbound, "The Medical Support System: A Focus on Family," Feb. 2019
  • Better Sex, "Prioritizing Intimacy," March 2019
  • What's Up Next, "Married To Money?, " July 2019
  • Hippocratic Hustle, "Married To Doctors Podcast," Aug. 2019
  • Life On Call, "Peace and Fulfillment as a Doctor's Wife, " Nov. 2019
  • 2 Frugal Dudes, "How to Talk about Money with Your Spouse," Nov. 2019

Speaking

  • Western States Medical Alliance Annual Meeting, Las Vegas, NV, March 2018
  • Lives' of Doctor Wives Facebook Group Live Conference Dallas, TX, July 2019
  • University of Missouri School of Medicine, Springfield, MO, Feb. 2019
  • The Kansas City University of Medicine, Joplin, MO, April 2019
  • Families in Family Medicine Workshop USAFP Annual Meeting, St. Louis, MO, March 2019
  • Massachusetts Medical Alliance Annual Meeting, Boston, MA, May 2019
  • Advocates for the American Osteopathic Association National Meeting, Philadelphia PA, October 2019
  • College of Medicine, University of Central Florida, Orlando FL, March 2020 

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Podcast Bio

The Married to Doctors podcast is a space where people from all different backgrounds can find a community, explore solutions and share stories about the unique challenges that come from being in a relationship with someone choosing a career in the medical profession.  The host of Married to Doctors is Lara McElderry, who has been navigating the medical world for the last seventeen years as she’s supported her husband through medical school, residency, a specialty change, fellowship, as well as raising five boys. She hopes the podcast will inspire others to share and implement ideas for how to make successful homes happier.

 

Lara McElderry Bio

BIO #1

Lara McElderry studied Family and Consumer Science and graduated from the University of Arkansas with a Masters Degree in Teaching. She has worked with youth and adults and has a strong interest in family dynamics.  Lara has been navigating the medical world for the last seventeen years as she has supported her husband through medical school, residency, a specialty change, fellowship, as well as raising five boys. She is the founder and podcast host of Married To Doctors. Her show is an interview-based weekly podcast.  Spouses of physicians share their stories and experts share advice as Lara leads a discussion asking personal and hard questions that explore the joys and challenges of being Married to Doctors.

BIO #2

Lara McElderry studied Family and Consumer Science at the University of Arkansas, then furthered her training with a Masters Degree in Teaching.  During her time at school, she supported herself as an emergency room secretary.  Early in her twenties, Lara paused her training to live and work in Brazil as a missionary becoming fluent in Portuguese.  Upon returning home, she taught junior high and high school English as a Second Language classes as well as Parenting, Family Dynamics, and Sexual Education.  This background has helped her to parent her own five sons as her husband trained in critical care and trauma surgery.

In 2017,  after moving to Albuquerque, she decided to start her own business and create a new podcast. Bouncing around topic ideas, she finally landed on what she felt she could speak to: medical marriage.  Her interviews explore a range of topics including finances, communication, sex, hardships, as well as the joys and opportunities given to those married to doctors. She appreciates the wide variety of physician partners and has interviewed stay at home moms and dads, authors, a psychiatrist, a sexologist, millionaires, and those living off student loans. Always interested in new perspectives, she continues to seek out those with unique stories and insights.

When asked if it took courage to start the show, she said, "Yes, because I knew that I would become more vulnerable, and inevitably someone would judge or make assumptions about me.  I decided to let people be wrong about me.  I had too many questions to ask others and too many stories of my own to not share my voice."

Lara’s hope is that in her openness and willingness to begin the conversation, she strengthens families, and helps to make successful homes happier.

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Want to get in touch? Simply email me at [email protected].  I read every single message personally.