Are you married to a doctor?
Do you find being married to a doctor isn’t as glamorous as society assumes?
From MCAT to Match Day to Boards and Contract Negotiations, this is not an easy path. In fact, it often feels that having a physician spouse and having a relationship are polar opposites!
It is common to feel resentment, friction, and stress in your relationship despite how much you love each other.
Hi, I’m Lara and I’m the podcast host and founder of Married to Doctors.
My husband and I got married before he decided to start down the medical path. For the past sixteen years, we’ve struggled and triumphed through the MCAT, medical school, residency, and fellowship with several twists and turns along the way, including a specialty change.
In addition to this, we both knew we wanted children, and we bravely brought five boys into the world! Our sons range in age from fourteen to four. Keep reading below to see our full Medical Journey Timeline.
Are you looking for a speaker at an upcoming event? If the physician-family is involved, I would love to be as well.
I've spoken at a number of national events both in person and virtually. I especially enjoy presenting to medical students and residents.
To see my previous engagements and learn more please keep reading or contact me via email, [email protected]
- "Finding My Voice as a Doctor's Wife," Physician Family Magazine, Winter 2018
- "The Romantic Side of Budgeting," White Coat Investor, Feb. 2018
- "Doctors Wear White Coats, but What do their Spouses wear?," Kevin MD, April 2018
Interviewed and Featured
- "Docs Reveal the Keys to Happy Medical Marriages" Medscape, Feb. 2019
- "It Takes Two: Your Spouse's Role in the Job Search," Practice Link, Spring, 2019
- "Couples Therapy is Now Streamable Through Your Earbuds. Ain't Technology Grand?,"The New York Times, Apr. 2019
- "Changing the "Doctor-Wife" Image One Podcast at a Time," sdtplanning.com, Aug. 2019
- "Navigating the Medical Marriage," adaptivemedicalpartners.com, Nov. 2019
- "Couples Therapy is Now Streamable Through Your Earbuds. Ain't Technology Grand?,"The New York Times, April 2019
- "10 Embarrassing Things To Do Together That Will Make You and Your Partner Closer" Romper.com, Feb. 2018
What others have said about Lara McElderry's speaking
- White Coat Investor, "An Interview with Lara McElderry of the Married To Doctors Podcast" May 2018
- The Blossoming Mommy and Baby Show, "Thriving in Marriage During a Hard Season," Dec. 2018
- Financial Residency, "The Importance of Community for Physician Spouses, Dec. 2018
- CEO Blog Nation, "Family Dynamics in The Medical World," Feb 2019
- Doctors Unbound, "The Medical Support System: A Focus on Family," Feb. 2019
- Better Sex, "Prioritizing Intimacy," March 2019
- What's Up Next, "Married To Money?, " July 2019
- Hippocratic Hustle, "Married To Doctors Podcast," Aug. 2019
- Life On Call, "Peace and Fulfillment as a Doctor's Wife, " Nov. 2019
- 2 Frugal Dudes, "How to Talk about Money with Your Spouse," Nov. 2019
- Western States Medical Alliance Annual Meeting, Las Vegas, NV, March 2018
- Lives' of Doctor Wives Facebook Group Live Conference Dallas, TX, July 2019
- University of Missouri School of Medicine, Springfield, MO, Feb. 2019
- The Kansas City University of Medicine, Joplin, MO, April 2019
- Families in Family Medicine Workshop USAFP Annual Meeting, St. Louis, MO, March 2019
- Massachusetts Medical Alliance Annual Meeting, Boston, MA, May 2019
- Advocates for the American Osteopathic Association National Meeting, Philadelphia PA, October 2019
- College of Medicine, University of Central Florida, Orlando FL, March 2020
The Married to Doctors podcast is a space where people from all different backgrounds can find a community, explore solutions and share stories about the unique challenges that come from being in a relationship with someone choosing a career in the medical profession. The host of Married to Doctors is Lara McElderry, who has been navigating the medical world for the last seventeen years as she’s supported her husband through medical school, residency, a specialty change, fellowship, as well as raising five boys. She hopes the podcast will inspire others to share and implement ideas for how to make successful homes happier.
Lara McElderry Bio
Lara McElderry studied Family and Consumer Science and graduated from the University of Arkansas with a Masters Degree in Teaching. She has worked with youth and adults and has a strong interest in family dynamics. Lara has been navigating the medical world for the last seventeen years as she has supported her husband through medical school, residency, a specialty change, fellowship, as well as raising five boys. She is the founder and podcast host of Married To Doctors. Her show is an interview-based weekly podcast. Spouses of physicians share their stories and experts share advice as Lara leads a discussion asking personal and hard questions that explore the joys and challenges of being Married to Doctors.
Lara McElderry studied Family and Consumer Science at the University of Arkansas, then furthered her training with a Masters Degree in Teaching. During her time at school, she supported herself as an emergency room secretary. Early in her twenties, Lara paused her training to live and work in Brazil as a missionary becoming fluent in Portuguese. Upon returning home, she taught junior high and high school English as a Second Language classes as well as Parenting, Family Dynamics, and Sexual Education. This background has helped her to parent her own five sons as her husband trained in critical care and trauma surgery.
In 2017, after moving to Albuquerque, she decided to start her own business and create a new podcast. Bouncing around topic ideas, she finally landed on what she felt she could speak to: medical marriage. Her interviews explore a range of topics including finances, communication, sex, hardships, as well as the joys and opportunities given to those married to doctors. She appreciates the wide variety of physician partners and has interviewed stay at home moms and dads, authors, a psychiatrist, a sexologist, millionaires, and those living off student loans. Always interested in new perspectives, she continues to seek out those with unique stories and insights.
When asked if it took courage to start the show, she said, "Yes, because I knew that I would become more vulnerable, and inevitably someone would judge or make assumptions about me. I decided to let people be wrong about me. I had too many questions to ask others and too many stories of my own to not share my voice."
Lara’s hope is that in her openness and willingness to begin the conversation, she strengthens families, and helps to make successful homes happier.